Appreciate the present

Life is good now…
Im learning to enjoy keeping things simple, living in the moment and appreciating the present =)

No longer do I crave for the should-haves and would-haves that was never really there
Guess this comes with age…

It’s going to be a happy year!
I can feel it in the air… ^^

Mars vs Venus =)

Fine, Im eavesdropping!
But I cant help it when they are talking loud enough for the whole cafe…

Anyways, sitting next to me in this China cafe are 2 ladies and 1 guy
Somewhere along their conversation, words like “marriage” and “love” from one of the ladies caught my attention.

She started discussing passionately about the kind of man she’s looking for. And she spoke in disdain about the men nowadays, citing them as weak, unmanly and lacking in drive. Egged on by the other lady comrade who was agreeing with her every single sentence, the one lone man in the group has no choice but to fight back, for the integrity of all male species.
Thus, a great conversation for me to eavesdrop on. =)

Two interesting points that this lady brought up (and the poor guy valiantly fought against)
1. She felt that she needed in a man, the vision to want to do better with the drive and perseverance to want to achieve his/her goals.

I smiled inwardly when I heard this.
Yes I was guilty!
This used to be something on my “want” list too.

That is, until I realized the fatality of this theory.
Because, at the end of the day, you’re falling in love with the POTENTIAL of this man
The man that YOU envision him to be (in your mind)
The man that he might/might not eventually become
And definitely not the man that he is right now…

So basically, you’re falling in love with the “him” you’ve painted in your mind
And the frustration (from both parties) of trying to mould and fit into that picture that’s been painted is mind-blogging…

Trust me, I’ve been there!
And Im really sorry I’ve ever tried to do that!

2. She wanted a knight in shining armor - someone who protects her from all problems, someone to make her happy when she’s upset, someone who always listens to her.

I’m sure to a lot of girls, this is almost mandatory.
Okays, maybe not the armor!
But shouldn’t a boyfriend do all the above in a relationship?

Hmm… maybe
But doesn’t this makes the lady very needy?
She’s making her partner liable for her emotions and her happiness, which doesn’t seem fair to me and seems over-whelming to the guy.

I feel it all boils down to emotional maturity.
Of course it feels good when someone you care listens to your problems or makes you happy when you’re upset. But it shouldn’t be a given and something that the ladies take for granted.
The ownership of our emotions should belong ultimately to ourselves. We should have the capacity to be happy, with or without someone else.

I think the ladies wouldn’t like it too, if the guys starts to whine and complain about their own problems at their date, and then expect us to cheer them up and take their problems away, right?

Anyways, eventually the poor guy slumped back in his seat and kept quiet while the ladies yakked away.
He finally got the point that the ladies are definitely not listening to whatever he is saying!

…

I hate goodbyes!!!
(You would think I’m immune to this, given the countless times I’ve been through this)

A break from work

Sometimes Im not so sure its a good thing
To break a habit thats coming to 4 years
Its amazing how I have not stepped into a Starbucks for the past 2 months, not even on weekdays
And even more astounding that my work stops when I stepped out of the office
A change for the better? I hope…

But at moments, I still question the sanity of this
For one, my laptop cant hurt me (unless I decide to slam my head on it when it starts lagging like an old lady)
My notebook doesn’t have mood swings and requires special care and precautions when I try to approach it
My excel sheets or work documents won’t go crazy on me and start to attack from behind the screen

Then doesn’t it makes more sense to spend more time on something that’s
1. Fair and reaps equal returns
(What you give is what you get)
2. Easier and almost monotonously routine
(Not exciting yes but at least not heart-wrenching)
3. Less complicated
(Nothing more challenging than a few hundred emails, yes?)
4. Not making me sleepless at nights
(In fact, I want nothing more than to sleep when Im working)
???

I think I have commitment issues
Period.

Everytime things start getting too serious, I can almost hear this wailing alert going off inside my head, saying something sinisterly close to the sound of “RUNNNNNN”!!!

Sigh
I need help… seriously

Nice quotes…

The best executive is the one who has sense enough to pick good men to do what he wants done, and self-restraint enough to keep from meddling with them while they do it.
~~Teddy Roosevelt (American president, 1858 - 1919)

Never mistake motion for action.
~~Ernest Hemmingway (Writer, 1889-1961)

As I grow older I pay less attention to what men say. I just watch what they do.
~~Andrew Carnegie (Major philanthropist, 1835 - 1919)

I have learned that success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which one has overcome while trying to succeed.
~~Booker T. Washington (African-American educator, author, orator and political leader, 1856 - 1915)

Story for thoughts:
An old Cherokee was teaching his grandchildren about life. He said to them, “A battle is raging inside me … it is a terrible fight between two wolves.
One wolf represents fear, anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority and ego.
The other stands for joy, peace, love, hope, sharing, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, friendship, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”

The old man fixed the children with a firm stare. “This same fight is going on inside you, and inside every other person, too.”

They thought about it for a minute and then one child asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”

The old Cherokee replied: “The one you feed.”

结束

Excerpts from a nice article on Facebook.

对不起
请原谅我一直以来的执着
对不起
这段期间
打扰了

对不起
原来我一直以来的坚持
你依然不肯与我携手走下去
说过的永远
说过的幸福
其实只是说说而已

也许是我的问题
也许是我不能给到你幸福
那我愿意放手

曾经在你的身上
找到了幸福的翅膀

每段爱总会有终点
终点只在于幸福与否
世上最残酷的恐怕是时间
困住人一切却还向前
干枯的眼再挤不出一点咸
爱到如此可悲的境界

我追逐你
脚皮磨损了
却依然跟不上你的脚步
最后
你还是把我推开了

你满意了
为什么我却只想要哭

你说做自己
我们就做回自己
不要再为爱受委屈

收起我的骄傲
承认曾经备受煎熬
我们那记号
只有你明了
过了这一夜
我就全忘掉

很爱过
但是只是被取消资格

我爱过你
真的深深爱过
只是你说我们不适合
只是你说没信心
那我愿意放手
让你往更多的幸福飞向去

亲爱的
最后一次我爱你
祝你幸福快乐

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I wish Im back, instead of where I am now…
Think I’ve managed to gain at least 2 kg
And with nothing productive (in my definition) done around here…

Everyday its PR events…
Sessions and sessions of hand shaking
Getting to know the big guys around the world…
And thats when I know I might have reached the end of my corporate ladder…
*nervous laughter*

Im not made for this…
I NEED to be doing things and getting my checklist ticked…
All these yakking and talking nice are making me edgy and totally unfriendly

*RAWR* My weekend has wasted away…
Wish I’ve not agreed to this in the first place.. =(

Monday needs to come faster!!! *Sigh*





Sometimes, Im not sure what to think anymore